“You can search the entire universe for who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You, as much as anybody in the entire universe deserve your love and affection.” -Dhyan Chand (Indian Hockey Player)
I met this girl on a trip to Delhi. She was a beautiful girl, her hair lustrous, I told her that anybody would be envious of her beautiful smile. And she blushed. One evening she told me that she has no love for her long and shiny hair. She was thankful, but never admired it for reasons unknown. She explained, “her smile was just to hide the storms gone by.”
That day I realized that I wasn’t alone this world who face the problem of loving oneself. How much she hated her skin that people could only read it’s color before peeping into the pureness of her thoughts. Of course, she loved and admired her every part, but the love for herself, just like her body, was never whole. She smiled for every other person in the world, I wondered when was last she smiled and appreciated herself.
“If self-love would be a song, I would sing it all day long” Priyanka Verma
As I am growing from a little girl into the woman I always wanted to be. I embrace the journey that took me from an 18-year-old innocent girl to a raging 25-year-youthful-woman. This little journey changes a whole lot of things- from birthdays to bills, from pocket-money to
When I say battles fought, I count the ones that left deep scars on just not your skin, but also somewhere deep in your mind. The one that lasted longer than you thought, and the ones that you fought with yourself. When I say dreams conquered – I spoke of the ones that you were on the verge of giving up on. The ones that hurt you like broken pieces of glass, the dreams that took away the peace and landed you on an island full of challenges, the ones that made you restless even in your sleep.
Loving yourself can be hard sometimes, especially when you have what the world calls “Scars”. You let the world influence so much on yourself that you begin treating it like one, without even realising it’s not just the scar but also the title of battles won. Of all those times when they mocked at your accent, and you have held yourself upright and laughed together because you understand if they would have been you, they wouldn’t be any different. You’ve carried the past that burnt you, and you are carrying your future, you carry dreams that you embrace and you carry darkness. You are both the positives and negatives. Half of the world lives on claiming positives and the other half blaming themselves for their negatives. What lies in between these two extremes what most people fail to understand is “KINTSUGI” that cracks too, can be filled, that it’s from where the light enters, that it’s what makes you shine.
Fill it with diamonds of S-E-L-F-L-O-V-E.
Some words to live by:-
*Don’t beat yourself up, that will erode your self-esteem. Be a kind and a supportive friend of yourself instead.
*Ask yourself: How would my friend/parent support me and help me in this situation? Speak to yourself kindly and guide yourself like a little kid. After all, you deserve self-affection.
*Stop blaming yourself for your failures and fucked up life. Stop running after success, start building yourself. Success is just an apex, entire journey, the failures, and the mistakes you made are the things that shape you to reach the top.
*With the crisis, comes opportunity. But important is to build yourself every day so that when opportunity knocks, you don’t stand there empty-handed.
” It’s only when you have mastered the art of loving yourself that you can truly love others. It’s only when you have opened your own heart that you can touch the hearts of others. ”